Finding love on Tinder, CMB or Bumble? The hard truth about dating apps
Stress, anxiety and low self-esteem – looking for romance online can be a headache. CNA Lifestyle weighs the relationship pros and cons.
Tracy Lee
If you’re a single woman who finds online dating somewhat crazy-making, you’re https://datingranking.net/de/anschliesen not alone – and it’s not your fault.
Take the story of Rachel Tan, a 32-year-old single mum who spent a year on dating apps but has now sworn off these for a reason.
“Since 2015, I had been concentrating on raising my daughter, who’s now five. Then, I purchased my own home in 2018. Finally, I felt my life had settled down nicely,” recalled the former bank executive.
And so she downloaded a few dating apps: Tinder, CMB (Coffee Meets Bagel) and Bumble. As a newbie, it was a steep learning curve. “How to filter the fake accounts, sidestep would-be scammers, print-screen the person’s image and do a reverse Google search, and adopt a ‘if he looks too good to be true, he probably is’ mindset,” she shared.
For Tan, it all felt a bit unusual. “While apps allow me to get out and meet more people, they feel like free-for-all buffets when you actually prefer a-la-carte dining. You’ve got to sift out the good from the bad. You swipe based just on a few photos and a short introduction, then wonder if perhaps you might have swiped away the right match,” she shared.
“Then you have to filter the ones who are keen. You worry some might be weird or obsessive, based on their texting patterns. After that, you have to talk to them for a bit before deciding to meet them in person. Some back away when I tell them I have a kid,” said Tan.
READ: Looking for love on Tinder? Your date might be selling you insurance instead
“No matter how secure you are, you always have it at the back of the mind that the guys you meet could be telling you white lies,” she continued.
